Divorce is always a tough situation. There is a lot of negativity and hurt feelings, but those emotions run higher when there are children involved. Often, children blame themselves when their parents get divorced. It’s hard for a child to separate the problems mommy and daddy are having from themselves. So, while you may be struggling and having a hard time coping with your divorce, recognize that your children are also going through the divorce. Here are some ideas to help your kids get through a divorce.
1. Reassure them you love them. The number one thing you can do is reassure your children that you love them, no matter what. They still have two loving parents who will always love them. Just because mom and dad are no longer together, doesn’t mean that the children won’t be loved and taken care of. Your kids need to be reminded of your love for them, especially if your divorce was filled with anger and fighting.
2. Keep life stable. As much as you can, keep life for your children stable. Try to keep them in the same school, in the same neighborhood, and doing the same routine. While it isn’t always necessary to keep your children in the same environment, it will be helpful if life is as normal as possible for them.
3. Stop the fighting. The angry words each parent says about the other really affects your children. Try to avoid fighting in front of your kids. If there are things that need to be discussed and you think the conversation will get heated, do it away from the kids.
Divorce is a sad and confusing time for kids. They feel uncertain about the future and are left with many unsettling feelings. Help your child live life as normally as possible as you go through your divorce. Together, you can get through this hard time.