There are many reasons why one, or both, parents may have lost custody of their children. Perhaps there was an illness that left you unfit to care for your children for a little while. Most commonly, one parent loses custody of their children during a divorce. If you are in the situation where you have lost contact with your child because of a divorce situation, here are some steps to help you get your children back.
1. Seek the help of a counselor. You are going need help to overcome your emotional issues first. Likely, there are feelings between you and your ex-spouse that have not been taken care of. Professional help can get you through those feelings and emotions.
2. Resist the urge to cause more problems. While it may be really tempting to pick a fight or cause more problems for your ex, don’t. This is not the time to play out the anger and the emotions that may be left over from the divorce.
3. Work with the other parent. You always want to try to work out a visitation schedule or rights with the other parent before you take the situation to the courts. Most likely, this is a situation you can work out between the two of you.
4. If working out the conflicts with your ex isn’t working, you must go to the courts. This will be a long and lengthy process, so be sure to get the help of an attorney or custody expert.
Child custody is a tricky and messy situation, especially after a divorce. The most important thing right now is to make sure your children know you love them and that you want to be a part of their lives. Make sure they know you care and are doing all in your power to help them to develop and grow normally.